Tuesday 4 August 2009

Don't Dwell On It

Yeah, yeah, yeah, I know I’m short! I find it annoyingly funny when people feel the need to tell me that I’m small like I don’t already know! At a petite 5'2", am I bothered that my height falls below average? No. Well...not anymore. I mean, you soon get used to the fact that your chances of being a catwalk model are pretty much anorexic - yes pun intended!
I did used to really hate the you’re so cute talk- what’s that supposed to mean? I’m 22 not 12! But then that all changed when guys showed me interest because I was cute. That was just what I needed to help me finally suppress my insecurity with my height. But unfortunately, once a particular insecurity disappears, you soon find that another one readily takes its place.
Can we ever fully combat our insecurities for good?

I honestly don’t think we can, especially in this narrow-minded world we live in that gets pleasure in feeding our insecurities. So what do we do? Well, what most people do is point out other people’s flaws to make them feel better about theirs; I think we are all guilty of this.

Though it’s easier to point a finger at other people’s faults, it’s certainly not the best method because provoking other people’s insecurities doesn’t make yours disappear. Instead I think we should actually listen to all the cliché talk about self-love.

If you don’t love yourself how can you honestly expect someone else to love you? And if you don’t know how to love yourself, how can you love someone else?

It’s something we’ve heard a thousand times before, yet we still manage to underestimate the power of self-love. Once you start loving yourself, you really do gain a whole new appreciation for ‘insecurities’ as weird as that might sound. It’s very normal to feel insecure about something whether it is a physical feature or an emotional thing. No one ever reaches complete satisfaction with their self; your glass is either half full or half empty right? Even the Halle Berries of this world have a baggage of insecurities somewhere. The only difference is some people carry it around with them wherever they go whilst others choose to leave that extra baggage at home. I’ve decided to lock away my baggage; just knowing it’s there is good enough for me! I understand that insecurities are not there to weigh you down; they are there to keep you humble. Since humbleness is an essential trait to have, I guess insecurities aren’t so bad after all…just don’t let them outweigh your securities.

So whatever you’re insecure about, don’t dwell on it.
As for your securities, don’t let your ego swell on it!

(hehe, can someone say chesse lol)

5 comments:

Fab Black Woman said...

Kudos!
You said it all.

Muffin said...

Love this post! Especially the part about insecurities keeping you humble...that's why they are good to an extent but like you said just keep em locked well away! Lol

Creasy said...

Good post...good read....and ditto to the two previous comments....some typical Eileen chocolate bars at the end, i think you should lock them up too...LOL...very good read!!!

Unknown said...

lol Creasy, i knw, i'm such a neek aren't i!

London said...

Soooo true hun! I think there comes a point in life where you have to look at your insecurities and realise that they are a part of you. All the fussing and fighting isn't going to change them.

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