'10 things I want to say to a black woman'

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That Girl

I love this poem and her (Alysia Harris) delivery was on point. She put soooo much emotion into it and I think that she touches an area most women can relate to. Ladies, let's try not to be 'that girl'...enjoy!

Ain’t I a Woman?

I know haven’t blogged in a hot minute but I’m here now! I recently learnt about a well known anti-slavery speaker, who was a slave herself, by the name of Sojourner Truth (1797–1883). Here’s a video of her infamous speech ‘Ain’t I a Woman?’ delivered by the wonderful Kerry Washington. It’s a must-listen!

The Church Hug

Ok, so basically...

I've been told by many guys that when I hug them....I don't really hug them! Haha, I didn't even realise I was giving guys the 'church hug' until one of my guy friends pointed it out to me a few years back. This is how you can identify a church hug:

• just one arm is used
• body is positioned at a 90 degrees angle rather than 180 degrees (i.e. perpendicular rather than parallel)
• there's curve in the back so that you look like siamese twins only joined from the shoulders up
• arse cocked out 'til it's looking like Nicki Minaj's (is it even real?!? coz that sure ain't no 'itty bitty piggy'...):
  

I'm not one to get paro but I've had a fair share of guys hug me in an inappropriate manner. I'm talking rubbing my back, feeling my bra strap, pushing my chest way too close against theirs...I've been violated too many times!!!

Personally, I absolutely love hugs; as the giver and receiver. A hug, to me, consists of four major components:


1. Closeness - how close do you get?


2. Tightness- how tightly do you hold onto the person?


3. Time- how long does the hug last for?


4. Release- who ends it first?


Depending on what 'type of love' you have for the person you're exchanging the hug with, the amount you decide to use of each component sends out a particular message...one intended or maybe not intended.



Am I making a big deal out of a hug? ...Yeah probably!

If you see me hug a guy with one arm, an arch in my back, and my arse cocked waaaay out, then you know what time it is- it's the church hug!

We Are Multipliers

Whatever you give a woman, she will make greater.

If you give her sperm, she’ll give you a baby.

If you give her a house, she’ll give you a home.

If you give her groceries, she’ll give you a meal.

If you give her a smile, she’ll give you her heart.

She multiplies and enlarges what is given to her.

So, if you give her any crap, be ready to receive a ton of shit.

-Hahaa, love it;-)

A Woman's Worth

I say that I refuse to settle for less because I claim that I am worth and deserve so much more…then someone shows me more than I could imagine and I want less…?!? I guess it’s true what they say about women not knowing what they want, ay? Or maybe, I don’t really know my worth.


“Be very careful if you make a woman cry because God counts her tears. Every tear a woman sheds is equivalent to a man's sacrifices in life. The woman came from a man's rib, not his feet to be stepped on, not on his head to be superior but on his side to be equal, under his arm to be protected and near his heart to be loved.”